I definitely have to agree with NaNaKat
on this one and say that there is definitely a difference between doing something for attention and receiving attention for something you do.
The shock value
of changing your appearence drastically because you want attention is definitely self-serving
and short term
. There seems to be no shortage (at least in this
country) of people who will give you that attention
for looking different. Unfortunately, it seems that that kind of attention has to usually be short lived
. That if somebody wants to do something truly different, they must keep changing, because if they don't, people will grow accustomed to their appearance. Yet, if they keep changing
, people will probably become accustomed to their "radicalness
", and not be shocked anymore. It's a losing battle...and one that I don't think anybody can win. Besides, everybody is unique regardless, why do people feel the need to blatantly show their uniqueness, when being themselves
will do that just as well?
However, it is not to say that there is no positive side
to having people be shock
ed by your appearance. There is no doubt in my mind that people's first judgement
s about who you are (and sometimes second
...) are based solely on the way you look. I mean, come on...if I suddenly had really large breasts
people would treat me much
differently. However, if you can get them past the "You're really strenje!
" side of things, then they are forced to deal with you for who you are, because they can no longer put you in a little box
The shock value
of receiving attention for something you do may not have the same sort of value for the person. It seems like NaNaKat dyed her hair
just because she wanted to. I've gotten pierced. (I guess I'll admit that I have 5 lovely rings, though it will soon be 3 because I want to get those 2 repierced at a larger/healthier gauge *mgrin*
). I get people every few days who can't help but talk to my nose
or to my lip
, but I'm almost at the point where I phase that out, and I don't even notice anymore.
But there wasn't much shock value
for me in getting pierced. Some people were shocked...but that wasn't what was important to me. I don't have friends who are pierced. I wasn't getting pierced to fit in, or getting pierced to try to not fit in. I did it because it was something that was important to me, and it was something that made me feel better about who I was. In a way, the shock value was for myself. It forced me to seperate
from my inner self
. It made me not only feel better about the way I looked, because it was a conscious choice
on my part, but it also made me care less about what I looked like, because I started noticing how arbitrary