The Joy of Pair Bonding

An on-going examination of how and why individuals of the species homo sapiens go about pair bonding, with handy instructions for those who wish to play at home.

An original work by other90percent, and whoever else wishes to contribute.

Table of Contents

Wherein your humble author strives for organization, and keeps moving things around till it looks right

• Initial Things
  • What This Manual Covers
  • Why Pair Bond?
• Anatomy of a Pair Bond
  • You, Me, We
  • Factory Settings (Male)
  • Factory Settings (Female)
• Communication
  • Self-Awareness
  • Things That Need to Be Said
  • Talking About Sex (cross indexed)
• Power
  • Hard and Soft Limits
• Sex
  • Pleasure Center Circuitry
  • Get Good At Sex
  • Fat and Placid
  • Talking About Sex (cross indexed)
• Commitment and Doubt
  • The Underwater Metaphor
• Suggested Reading
  • The Bridge Across Forever by Richard Bach
  • The Moral Animal by Robert Wright
  • other books by men with names that begin with R

Subjectivity Disclaimer:

Naturally, I can only write about my own first-hand experiences and those that I glean from friends. So The Joy of Pair Bonding directly applies only to me (gee, how useful) but I hope that you can extract some useful information.

Of course, you are welcome to (and I encourage you to do so!) add your own writeups and experiences. Then TJoPB will still be subjective, but have a broader source.

I'll be changing the names of people I refer to directly, in order to protect their privacy. I hope you do the same, if you are adding to it.