It is best to share with your attendants what is going forward, both in the labour of preparation and in the enjoyment of the feast itself.

If such a thing be difficult at the time, recollect that you who are not weary are being served by those that are; you who are eating and drinking by those who do neither; you who are talking by those who are silent; you who are at ease by those who are under constraint.

Thus no sudden wrath will betray you into unreasonable conduct, nor will you behave harshly by irritating another.