Penis size anxiety

Actually, I think it just has to do with the fact that sex education in the United States is so terribly lacking. Guys have this silly idea that size is the most important thing, when really it isn't. A monster sausage is not going to do anything for a woman if the guy it's attached to thinks he can just ram it in and go. On the other hand (or should I say in the other hand?), a man who is highly skilled in use of his hands and tongue will have very happy lovers even if he can't even get it up.

But my point about sex ed is this: First of all, most people don't know what penises really look like except for their own and maybe a few other guys they've seen, almost always while flaccid. They probably also don't realize that a penis is NOT proportional to any other body part, and a particular penis's dimensions and appearance while erect and while flaccid have nothing to do with each other.

I took a sex ed class (under the purview of psychology) in which we actually saw a slide show of different penises, erect and flaccid, circumcised and not. I expect it was quite enlightening to much of the class. We also watched a slide show of pictures of the vulva, but that's a topic for a different node.

In talking with a female friend a few days back we worked out that there are generally 3 types of Penis Size Anxiety. It is important to note that we worked this out in the perspective and context of heterosexual males, as two of the types involve women and all three are taken from the male perspective -- she being female and me not being gay, we felt it was unfair to make more assumptions than we already had. None of this is scientific, but merely products of meandering experience. Still, they turned out quite nice:

Anxiety with comparison to other Males

Also know as "locker room anxiety" in high school, it is the feeling of inadequacy in examination and comparison of ones size in direct visual respect with one's peers. First-hand *hem* comparison like this is very enlightening and embarrassing since there is no psychological fudge factor, simply visual constants -- you can see how big they are and they can see how small you are.

Anxiety with comparison with other Males by Females

This is the fear that you are smaller than all of you lovers' previous male companions. This is also painful because the woman in question has most likely had intimate and detailed examinations of her previous partners' members; especially in the all-important erect state.

Anxiety with physical contact with Females

Here is where "does size matter" comes in. This is the factorial where men are worried about the size of their equipment in direct relation to sex, and more importantly to their partners pleasure. An entire panel of women could take out a page in the New York Times proclaiming that "SIZE DOESN'T MATTER", and no more than 5% of men would be convinced. Believe it or not, the majority of men want to be good in bed, and they feel that they can't be "as good as they could be" unless they are the perfect size to fit their lover. It is the general (I said "general", not "correct") belief that a small penis will not "stretch" their partner enough so therefore they (their partner) won't enjoy it enough or, heaven forbid, even feel it inside of her. Length, too, plays a factor here, as many men think that the perfect penis will take up the entire length of the vagina to the point of being able to touch the cervix.

The only non-sociological reasons for these feeling we were able to come up with are two possibilities: the first) is that the longer the penis, the farther in the vagina sperm can be deposited and the wider the penis, the better it will be to keep it from leaking out. The second) is envy of the animal kingdom. Humans are, to my knowledge, the only vertebrate mammals that lack a penis bone and so therefore the human penis probably cannot achieve the extreme sizes in comparable animals in the same kingdom as a penis bone allows for much greater lengths that simply using erectile tissue cannot muster.