all sex is not rape

Okay, so I'm going to take some flack about this -- however, I'm speaking from the BDSM standpoint of more aware communication and understandings of how human relationships work.

Rape is a means for an attacker to steal power from their victim. The rapist gets an ego trip, and the victim loses all sense of safety and comfort. Rape survivors generally feel, for the rest of their lives, very touchy about emotional boundaries and any attempts to push them.

Sex is a consenting activity... when done properly, it's fun for everyone, and it is a great way to relieve stress. It releases endorphins, and everyone involved feels better. Bad sex is done in this spirit, but for some reason or other it doesn't happen, and one or all people involved feel worse.

Seduction is almost, but not quite, rape -- in this case, you're entreating someone to have sex with you, when they may not want to, or (to put it another way) want to do anything -except- have sex with you. This involves pseudo-raping their mind, changing how they feel and what they feel.

Zanth, I agree with you completely, but I feel like playing devils' advocate:

The Radical Plotting Feminist schlogan (intentional mispelling) that all sex is rape is based on the, however disturbed, position that women in the world are psychologically conditioned to like sex. It is therefore obvious (note sarcasm) that any woman in a "natural" frame of mind would hate sex. Sex is therefor a construction of the Patriarchy to subjugate women.

Did I miss anything?

Okay, now here comes the fun part. All sex is rape? What about Lesbian lovemaking? What about wanking? And how do we know it wasn't the women of the planet who have brainwashed the men into liking sex? Or is it only rape when the giver has a penis?

"Beer, good. Schlong, bad!"