a thinking woman

created by Slendro

(person) by Slendro (4.5 y) (print) ? (I like it!) Sun Nov 14 1999 at 9:05:22

The only kind that you can have a lifelong relationship with.

But then, maybe you're planning on having a midlife crisis, and dumping her for someone younger--in which case you will get exactly what you deserve.

(idea) by f1r3br4nd (7.5 y) (print) ? (I like it!) Wed Apr 26 2000 at 16:53:45

You know, I really love strong, intelligent women. But they don't love me back, except as friends. The women I did date turned out to be needy, insecure, and worst of all... the interests and ideals I thought we shared were just wishful thinking on my part. Somehow their aspirations seem to end up revolving around mundane domestic shit.

So now, I'm trying a new tack. I'm admitting to myself that there are many, many guys who love geeky women, and therefore geekettes have their pick of any guy they want (on this scene at any rate... who cares about the Normal People anyway?). Secondly, I'm admitting to myself that I just don't have whatever mysterious qualities it is that women find attractive... that would explain why I only end up with the lame ones-- they settle for me. Therefore, when I'm friends with a woman and find myself attracted to her, I'm not really choosing a chance at a relationship instead of a friendship. A relationship is not an option to begin with. What I'm doing by trying to get her to go out with me is queering up a perfectly good friendship.

So, I've resolved:

Not to waste time on women (no matter how attractive) if they fail this simple test: "Would I still hang out with her if she was a guy?".
Not to sabotage platonic relationships I value by trying to make them non-platonic.

Okay, but what about that all important issue of getting laid? Well, it's not like I saw all that much action before I made this resolution. Furthermore, what I did get was mostly with women who I was so unhappy with that it wasn't worth those few moments of bliss. Once in a long while I have run into women who didn't have much in common with me but were willing to sleep with me for the hell of it, no strings attached. Like a dumbass I let them slip out of my life. I'm keeping my eyes open for the next one, though. She'll come along eventually.

I suppose my somewhat disquieting conclusion is that you can't have your cake and eat it too. If you can find a cool woman who'll also sleep with you, you're the luckiest guy alive. But you're more likely to get your physical and intellectual needs satisfied by different individuals. Life sucks like that.

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An Intelligent Woman	The primal urges of women	An Open Letter to My Brain	Licentious
Why shouldn't men look at women's breasts?	When men were men, women were women, and you knew where you were going in life	deserve	What're we gonna do tomorrow night, Brain?
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cognitive dissonance	Spit or swallow?	Kill Husband: Comparing Marge Piercy and Kate Chopin	Sticks and balls
Diet of Worms	She threw out all my letters	Letters to Hitler	Tenjo
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