She's probably not single

(idea) by prole (3.5 d) (print) ? (I like it!) 1 C! Tue Jul 18 2000 at 23:39:33

hey now..

i don't think that's entirely fair to nerdy girls. i can only speak for myself, but i would prefer unambiguously to date a geek boy than to date another type of male. i don't want a boy whose ego i must constantly massage, telling him he's a technical genius because he figured out how to color in photoshop. especially since insanely desirable single geek boys are not at all in short supply, particularly in college computer science courses and in geek-attracting web locales.

i would posit that you need fear far less the possibility of all the worthwhile geek girls going sorority chick to attract a conventional stud, and give your fellow geeks the credit they deserve for being able to woo the females of their species. and that probably includes you.

why would any geek girl want to date a man who can't commiserate when her attempts to overclock her computer fail, or when her code is inexplicably buggy, or when her server goes down? sounds like a grand waste of time..

if there is any problem with geek boys, it is this: unfortunately often, they get shy and convince themselves they have no chance with their female counterparts, causing equally shy geek girls to think they're not interested.

(idea) by Zari (6.4 y) (print) ? (I like it!) 1 C! Tue Jul 18 2000 at 23:39:45

Please stop whining.

You won't know if she's single unless you ask. So, ask.

Don't sit here and tell us about her and how much you want her. Ask her out. Smile at her. Talk to her.

Go for it.

Personally, I think you're completely wrong in your assumptions about geek girls. Heck, I think you're wrong about women in general. Do you really think that all women are shallow and stupid enough to change their entire personality for the affection of a man?

They aren't.

What is a true geek? Is it the job you do? Is it the way you think about the world? Is it simply having a computer skill? Is it a combination of entertainment choices, such as reading sci-fi versus reading Cosmo?

Define what you want. Look for it. Get it.

Yes, it is that simple.

Improve your attitude. Look confident. Act confident. Be confident.

You'll find her when you least expect it.

(idea) by juliet (11.6 mon) (print) ? (I like it!) 2 C!s Wed Jul 19 2000 at 1:06:02

There is a female version, of this cynical and insecure line. Well a few, it depends on the girl of course. Of course you can turn them around for men too.

"He'd never find me attractive, why bother."
Automatically assuming that no man is physically attracted to one's self, is a good cop-out. It's the whole, "I hope it's not true, but if it is.. I have the satisfaction of being right" I will admit though.. With that mentality is a good way to make male friends. If you already rule out the possibility of attraction, it makes it easier to just hang out.

"If he talks to me, it's just because he is trying to get laid."
This is the, "Every guy is really just a jerk, men suck." whine. I must admit, girls who assume every guy is really just a manipulative con-artist.. well what is she? She seems to think people are only around her because they want something from her. Maybe because she is just like them?

"He's probably gay."
Well, this does happen at times. Usually it is just a way to rationalize why one isn't even trying to meet someone. They assume anyone they find attractive, would find them attractive.. if they don't.. they must be gay.

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Forgive me, my English is version 0.0	Girls who tell you they have a boyfriend	Women are evil	Why every girl on the entire planet has a boyfriend
skinny boy aesthetic	hot library chicks	Sorority girls vs. frat chicks	You must be 18 or older to enter
WARNING: Noders May Not Be What They Seem to Be	girl geek	Commiserate	I don't care what you've heard: It's hard to get laid in New York City
She is afraid of not being shy	Those aloof boys	The Ten Commandments revised	Loneliness
single	Flaws with Pascal's Wager	Parking warning	Things I told my teenaged daughters about boys
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